There is a well-worn cliché that we only regret what we don’t do or say much more than what we have actually done or said. I am not sure that entirely holds up to scrutiny – when we say something that is unkind, untruthful or harmful, we will almost always wish that we could turn back time and use our better judgement. What I think we do regret however is that compliment we didn’t give or the thank you that we left unsaid.
When we know we have missed an opportunity to show the best version of ourselves and acknowledge the positive impact someone has had on our life, it can be a regret that sticks around.
There is such an easy antidote to that: if you think a positive thought, just say it.
When you are grateful for someone in your life, tell them.
When someone has helped you, thank them.
When someone’s company, presence, support or friendship has uplifted you, say it and make sure they know it mattered to you.
When someone has created something which you appreciate, or performed in a way you have positively noticed, use your words to credit their efforts.
Our words are the most powerful and influential tools, enabling us to uplift others and change the course of someone’s day. Use them generously to create joy and connection. You won’t regret it.
